An Unloved Guy's Guide by John Logan

Author:John Logan [ Logan, John]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781622930227
Publisher: Enslow Publishers, Inc.
Published: 2015-03-11T04:00:00+00:00

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“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”

—Ambrose Bierce

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These kinds of situations can lead to serious disagreements that could endanger your relationship. To keep it strong, you both need to try to solve your misunderstandings and conflicts in healthy ways.

This means you need to bring up the problem in a direct way but without placing any blame. Let her know that you think she has been mean to you, or ask if you have done something to upset her. The next step is to talk about how it makes you feel. Does it make you mad that she didn’t talk to you all day? Or is she angry that you were out with your friends and didn’t call her at all?

Try to be open and not react with anger or other negative emotions when listening to her side of the story. If you are at fault, apologize and try to find out what you can do in order to make it up to her. Say something like, “I’m really sorry about what I did. I didn’t know it would make you feel that way.”

If you think she did something wrong, choose your words carefully. Let her know how her behavior made you feel: “I felt upset when I didn’t hear from you all day because I thought something happened to you.” That kind of statement works a lot better in clearing the air than making an angry, accusatory statement like “Why didn’t you call?!”

Remember, the way you communicate can go a long way to resolving problems. The way you handle your disagreements and arguments says a lot about how much you trust and respect each other.

Always try to solve your problems. Don’t ignore or walk away, unless you need a few moments to get a handle on your angry feelings. Dealing with conflicts in a relationship is difficult. However, if you are willing to put time into figuring out how to resolve them, then your relationship will not only survive, but it will grow stronger.

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